Gay Voices

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One Woman Wonders: Can You Be Muslim and Lesbian at the Same Time?

My name is Nzee, I am from Pakistan living here in United States for the past four years. I was born Muslim and I’m proud to call myself Muslim. But I can’t deny the fact...

Did I Understand Consent as a Young Gay Man?

In light of recent high-profile allegations of sexual abuse, I can’t help but wonder if I even understood consent when I was a young gay man living in 1990s New York City. You...

Breaking Down HIV Stigma, One Test at a Time

I will never forget the day one of my closest friends sat me down and confided in me that he had contracted HIV. As a young gay man of color, HIV was on my radar, but I never...

Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin

During one of my religion classes, our teacher played a video for us in which a man explained the sacredness of marriage. He went on to elaborate that heterosexual marriages are...

Saying Farewell to Summer at a Gay Nude Beach

As fall approaches, I can’t help but marvel at the sights, sounds and stories I experienced this summer at a local, clothing-optional stretch of the water’s edge that the...

Why I Chose to Make a Feature Documentary on the Life and Times of Gay Composer Gerald Busby

One day, while thumbing through The New York Times, my eye caught the Neediest Cases Section and I saw composer Gerald Busby’s photograph with the headline: “Back From...

This Gay Man Went Camping and All He Got Was Hope for the Future of America

We thought we had packed almost everything for our visit to a gay-owned campground, but one of the best moments of the trip came from something we forgot. There was an ad campaign...

A Coming out Story of Abandonment, a Prodigal Son Finds His Family.

I came out of the closet in 1992 in Indianapolis In. I had an abusive father, a subservient mother and was kicked out of the house. I had already told my mother and siblings a...

Can I Let This Straight Man Be My Sugar Daddy for a Weekend?

After going through a rough patch, Sebastian receives an invitation for an out-of-town adventure with a straight friend from college that initially seems too good to be true. I...

The Stations of My Gay Divorce

On the day my divorce was finalized, I accidentally ended up in the neighborhood where I took so many of the steps which led me to that moment. As I shared in an earlier column...

The Bitter Truth…..Of How to Be Authentic

I planned to commit suicide last Wednesday by driving my car into an oncoming 18 wheeler. The driver of the truck would most likely survive, but I figured I would die quick and...

Lesbian Moms, Sperm Donors, and the Myth of the Essential Father

For as long as I can remember, I have known that I was the child of a sperm donor. At age two, my two loving mothers explained that our family was different from the norm-that my...